I'm 36. The problem is I don't find women my age attractive.  However I don't expect younger women to fall all over me either.  So I'm caught at this stage in my life where I'm thinking if I don't find someone younger than me in the next 9 years I'll decide to stay single for the rest of my life.  If I'm 45 I won't be finding women in their 40s attractive.  At that age I won't be interested in someone half my age either.

As you men out there get older do you find yourself getting attracted to women your age?  I don't.  If I married someone I loved at my age I would find her attractive.  But there is an age where I just won't look at women any longer.  And movie stars and celebrities don't count.  We are talking real life.

" The problem is I don't find women my age attractive. "

Why do you consider that a "problem"?

" However I don't expect younger women to fall all over me either. "

Why not?

That statement alone indicates to me how you're limiting yourself with your own thoughts. You need to examine those patterns and neutralize their effect on your life.

You're the cause of your problems. Your answers as well as solutions lie within.

Sadly, Jeff, you do not find women your age (36 years old) attractive. That is a problem since everyone ages and even that 21 year old you have been watching at the bar will someday (hopefully) reach that age of unattractiveness. So, whatcha gonna do? Get over yourself and your age-ism or just keep trading them in until your thing stops working or the money runs out?
There is more to attraction that looks, you know. So when you say you are not attracted to women of a certain age you are basing a whole lot on looks and not much on character.
This sounds like stinkin thinkin to me.

Jeff

Attention: REGISTER / LOGIN to view the image! Posted - 7/1/2007 10:23:40 AM I'm 36. The problem is I don't find women my age attractive.  However I don't expect younger women to fall all over me either.  So I'm caught at this stage in my life where I'm thinking if I don't find someone younger than me in the next 9 years I'll decide to stay single for the rest of my life.  If I'm 45 I won't be finding women in their 40s attractive.  At that age I won't be interested in someone half my age either. As you men out there get older do you find yourself getting attracted to women your age?  I don't.  If I married someone I loved at my age I would find her attractive.  But there is an age where I just won't look at women any longer.  And movie stars and celebrities don't count.  We are talking real life.

Man are you lame. White guys what is wrong with you? Did white women slice your nuts off? You are the most balless men on earth. BALL LESS.

If you dont like old women... go out and get a younger one. They are out there. Old men have young admirers. You just have to go out and find one. man you are only 36. You should still be able to score 20 year olds at that age. EASILY. Plenty of black and  asian men your age are. What is holding whitey up?

You should be able to do that until you are in your 50s. There are 50 year old men dating women in their 20s. Almost all males have wives that are younger than us. Anywhere from 1-30 years younger.

Look at those 55 yaer old pedophiles dating a 17 year old. Do the same thing he is doing but wait a few extra months util 18.
If you cant seduce young women and you are only 36 in a world where a 72 year old guy got a 19 year old girl pregnant.....you probably couldnt ever do it.

I dont mean to sound harsh but man, white men are scarey whiney cases. JUST GO DO IT.

old women are mean

The problem is you never found women your own age attractive !!!!!

I doubt when you were 30 you found 25 year olds attractive - kinda left it too late didn't you.

36 years is too old??!!  Come on!!  Your life is still ahead of you.

"I don't expect younger women to fall over me either"  Don't you have any self confidence?  A thirty something guy should have NO trouble dating someone in their 20's.

And 9 years is a long time.  I am sure you can find someone in less time if you try.

Young Guy

Attention: REGISTER / LOGIN to view the image!Posted - 7/1/2007 3:48:35 PM old women are mean

They aren't mean. They just have a nasty way of competing with young women.
Their method of competing is to 1) tell older white men they can't seduce young white women (to deter him from even trying. Break his confidence).  She knows damn well he can. She knows they can seduce 17 1/2 year olds. They've put enough of them in jail. 18-19.... isnt any harder to seduce than 17 1/2.

2) Tell young women that older men (including former boytoys) are dangerous and they should avoid them.

That is how older white women defend their turf. Thats not mean, but it is underhanded and nasty. Get use to it. It will never change.

^^ Sorry not sure what rock you live under!

However I don't expect younger women to fall all over me either

What's the matter, you have 2 heads?

GET SOME BALLS, MAN!!

Cutie

Attention: REGISTER / LOGIN to view the image!Posted - 7/1/2007 4:56:03 PM ^^ Sorry not sure what rock you live under! Attention: REGISTER / LOGIN to view the image!

Explain why I am under a rock. Show me the light so that I may leave the rock.
I think  what I said is very accurate.

Man.. I almost freaked out when a friend of mine sent me this link. I'm Jeff, also 36yo, and I'm NOT the same guy who wrote the blog on 7/1/07. I’m Asian ( currently live in the U.S., recently went to Vancouver for a short trip and happened to observe something I find interesting.) I saw at least three couples where guys are in their 50s and 60s, and their girlfriends were in their early 20s. One guy looked like Larry David, the other --maybe Woody Allen, and the girls were gorgeous. I mean seriously hot!!  I think that is awesome! It gives me hope!!  :)

I've bee having similar problems like the other Jeff, but in my case, I’m still attracted to women in all ages (probably not too older than me, I guess). I just have a hard time finding the RIGHT one. I tend to go after girls in 20s just because a lot of them still don’t have kids, and I don’t want to deal with women with kids (sorry, not yet). Realistically, a lot of women in 30s already been married, have kids or divorced, and I just don’t want to deal with those issues yet (Maybe I will change my mind if I get older and stay single.)

That’s all. I have nothing against older women. I find some pretty attractive. After all, we all get old and shrivel and die, right? Yes, Physical beauty always catches my eyes first, but PERSONALITY and COMMUNICATION really count for long lasting, happy relationship!!  Cheers to all women.. I think you’re all beautiful!!

Jeff,

"The average age for first marriages is rising steadily for both brides and grooms. In 2000, first-time brides were 31.7 years old, while grooms proclaimed their first marriage vows at an average age of 34.3."

http://www.cbc.ca/news/background/marriage/

The problem is women younger than you probably will not want a serious relationship or to get married. The average age for marriage in Canada for women right now is 31. That means most women are going to start thinking about marriage at 29, not when they are 20. And they are probably going to look for someone their age. Most marriages have a three year age difference (you can look all of this up in Statistics Canada) and only 5 per cent of the population in Canada has a large age gap (defined by an age difference of more than seven years).

Now think about what you are saying: "But there is an age where I just won't look at women any longer." That is a bit shallow but realistic. It's also realistic for most of us. As a person in my twenties I won't look at a person when they've reached a certain age, yes. So then imagine what all those women in their twenties are thinking. For them, you've probably reached the age at which they will no longer look.

Statistically speaking you are best off looking for a woman 29 and older because that's the age range that is ready to be married. Luckily for you since more and more people are putting off marriage there is a wider available pool of women in their early thirties (29-33) who could date you. I think that's a realistic age range because anyone younger than that still doesn't have his or her life together and is ready for the next step (kids, marriage, etc). I wouldn't marry or date anyone seriously right now and I'm 25.

The above poster is a tard. I hate poeple who over generalize. Some of us have parents who are more than 20 years apart.

My mom was in her early 20's and my dad in his 40's when they married.

People date and marry across big gaps all the time. Sometimes as lovers and sometimes just as friends. "date someone over 29" sounds like old woman posing as a 25 year old... "date me only" propaganda.

I have never in my life  have ever heard anyone advise an older woman to date someone their own age. Why do only men get this preaching?
In real life... older men create 90-93% of all 20+ year gap marriages.

A female in their 20's is a BILLION times more likely to marry someone 10+ their senior than a a male is.
Why preach to males??????
When males reach the point when females don't look... they just take out their wallet. Problem solved.

And a lot of the above doesn't even apply to non white cultures. Gaps a very common in asia.

And when all else fails..... there is always this until males are 80:

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New rule: FEMALE SHOULDNT PREACH TO MALES.

ONe look at marriage studies show... males don't need females advice.

Dude, I'm talking statistics. Statistics don't lie. MOST people marry within the same age range and MOST people in Canada right now are marrying at the age of 31 if they are women.

The guy said he wanted a serious relationship, not to go looking for a hooker so I don't know why you have the image of a hooker in your post.

Statistics tell a story. Sure, there are always outlier values but statistically speaking in Canada most couples have an age gap of three years. You can look it up at Statistics Canada.

Can you marry at 40 even if your partner is 20? Sure. But I was talking general statistics figures. Statistics in Canada seem to point at the fact that women in their late twenties and early thirties would be in their prime/most ready for marriage.

If you can disprove that with some verified information just like the link I posted go ahead. That was a story by the CBC by the way. What's your source of info? Give me a break.

Problem

Attention: REGISTER / LOGIN to view the image!Posted - 8/28/2007 1:12:49 PM Dude, I'm talking statistics.

And THAT is the problem because this statistics lead us to another statistics. The one about divorce rate.  So your advice to Jeff to follow the statistics is nothing more than an invitation to be part of the divorce rate statistics.

What Jeff should do is NOT follow statistics but follow what's worked for millions of years.

Questions for Jeff:

1. How much do you make?
2. How much is your savings?
3. Do you have any debt?
4. What's your job/career?
5. How tall are you?

If you aint got no money take yo broke a-s-s home and make an old hag happy.

Wow...I am 37, never been married and that really sucks that you dont find women your age attractive anymore. It is a little defeating from this end too though. I tend to feel like men my age are usually divorced with children and they dont tend to line up to my lifestyle because they seem too old for me. Possibly a sense of entitlement on my part... I suppose i feel that since I took the time to go to school and treat everyone as i would like to be treated, took children with me to church on sunday, built computers for underpriviledged children, played the piano, and worked out every single day since i was 20, I would hope that people who had already gotten a chance at happiness with a first marriage and a love of their life would stop saying that all i deserve to expect at this point is to be someone elses childrens step mother and sloppy seconds to a 45 year old divorced man. Maybe it is me who was overlooked because i forgot to look up and see what was there in front of me on the way. I am sure that a 30 something, established man should find it extremely easy to have a nice friendship and conversation about anything in the world that matters with a 20 year old girl. Good luck. My mother married a man, my father, who was 8 years younger than her. He died last year on his 60th birthday. Her, her 90 year old mother and their 5 kids are trying to live happily ever after as the female generations back up and we grow old with only each other.

Sorry but I have to agree with Jeff. I've never found women my own age attractive, at least not since I was 25 or so.
Women my age tend to look older, have much different interests (ie: music -stuck in the 80's, sports - none, TV - Sex in the City, etc etc).

As such, I've always dated younger women and my wife is 9 yrs younger.
It's all good.

My wife is 5 years younger.

But I think women of any age can be attractive.

Cassandra...I think I actually know / knew you about 15 years ago.

This brother speaks the truth.

People in their late 30's who seek to date people their own age must realistically expect some baggage to accompany any prospective lover/husband/wife. Almost everyone you meet will either be divorced or have survived the break-up of relationships with former lovers. They might have kids. Atd 37 some will probably have children who are adults themselves. Those who are without a sexual history are likely to be rather ummmm.....unusual and perhaps uncomfortable in any relationship at all. If you decide to join the cougar club and date men significantly younger, that will bring its own set of problems. You will have differnt cultural references, you may spend time worrying if he really finds you attractive, and will he continue to love and desire you. I honestly wish you joy as I believe this is the only life we have and we should strive to be as happy as we can be.

Somehow i don't think you knew me though your symbolism of "knowing me" is taken as it was meant. I'm sure there are many women who are feeling this way. Most of my friends are men and i don't want anyone to think that i'm "male bashing" - simply agreeing that it seems that both sexes are often complaining that there is no one out there to date. Isn't it interesting that none of those people ever find each other? Possibly that original 36 year old man is waiting for me to have a baby girl so in 18 or so years he can meet his soul mate?

I wasn't thinking significantly younger! Attention: REGISTER / LOGIN to view the image! I was thinking 32ish... Don't get me wrong: I'm not against other people's children, I love them. I just don't really agree with the concept of dragging kids from broken home to the new extended home where the siblings are 20 years apart. Women can be really difficult- the "real mother" won't appreciate the extra presence and usually women try to kill me anyway. I would also never ask a man who has his children grown to the point of actually making sense to start over again. I think women who do that are extremely selfish. I don't have a lot of respect for women who date other people's husbands. Divorced or not- they are still married in my eyes. I can't tell you how many men in their late 30s have come to me thinking that i was their saviour and wanted an instant relationship with me in hopes that i could help them get full custody of their children. That's messy and the children are always the victims.

"Divorced or not- they are still married in my eyes."

This is the stupidest statement I have ever heard.

Finally, someone with a logical brain...