Meet • Entertain • LiveMeet • Entertain • Live| sam | Posted Aug 31 2008, 08:49 AM |
| This thread still exists???? Probably by this time 44 yr old oscar is married with a baby. Oh well maybe the advice on this thread might help someone else in a simular rut | |
| Guest | Posted Aug 31 2008, 01:33 AM |
| us army, you need help! | |
| us army | Posted Aug 31 2008, 01:30 AM |
QUOTE (Oscar @ Jul 25 2006, 11:39 PM)  I`m 42 and straight, and I also never had a girlfriend or even dated in my entire life. I guess alot of it is because of my shyness....I never asked a woman out before. Not bad looking I guess, 5`6 155 lbs or so. But like a few here, the idea of personal rejection scares the shit out of me! I mentioned this the other day to a friend, he was horrified, told me seek professional help! I realize I do need help and cannot keep going this path. But is my situation this extreme that I need to see a shrink?? just rent a whore that's all you need she will teach hahahahaha |
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| Davo | Posted Aug 31 2008, 12:19 AM |
| Dude: It's okay. Ever see "The Forty Year Old Virgin"? It's not that uncommon. Your friend shouldn't have been "horrified." Sometimes it just doesn't happen. No shame. Shrinks? Most aren't very good. A few are. Shop around. That's quite acceptable. Strategies? You've heard them all before. Don't let people say there's something wrong with you. |
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| hmm | Posted Jul 28 2008, 03:54 AM |
QUOTE (robert fansworth @ Jul 27 2008, 09:44 PM) I am 45 and in the same boat. Pretty sad situation. I fear the same thing you do, but time is slipping away year by year. I don't get any or much attention from women and figure I am not good looking at all. I'm not fat or in bad shape but never really get any interest. I pretend things are OK but know they're not. How long will this last? I think I know the answer. The thing is, couples are everywhere. Look in Walmart or your local grocery store. All you see are couples with children. So it must not be too hard. Oscar has developed some mindset over the years that totally defies reality and he is just hurting himself. Some suggested therapy, but at 42'/43 there is no time for that. slef help books can help, but the bottom line is he will just have to grow some balls like the rest of us and put himself out there. He`ll discouver that it was petty easy and that he was a complete idiot all of these years for not trying sooner. Thats would be a problem 2 discouver the pleasures of sex at his age, you`ll get depressed after realizing on how much you`ve missed out |
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| robert fansworth | Posted Jul 27 2008, 09:44 PM |
| I am 45 and in the same boat. Pretty sad situation. I fear the same thing you do, but time is slipping away year by year. I don't get any or much attention from women and figure I am not good looking at all. I'm not fat or in bad shape but never really get any interest. I pretend things are OK but know they're not. How long will this last? I think I know the answer. | |
| * | Posted Jul 25 2008, 10:17 AM |
| Oscar, Think how devasted you would feel if this year you were diagnosed with terminal cancer. In your 40s its always a possibility. A life with no love, no compnaionship.......pretty sad! Please Don`t take life for granted and get moving! |
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| random thought | Posted Jul 16 2008, 04:22 AM |
| The thing is, couples are everywhere. Look in Walmart or your local grocery store. All you see are couples with children. So it must not be too hard. Oscar has developed some mindset over the years that totally defies reality and he is just hurting himself. Some suggested therapy, but at 42'/43 there is no time for that. slef help books can help, but the bottom line is he will just have to grow some balls like the rest of us and put himself out there. He`ll discouver that it was petty easy and that he was a complete idiot all of these years for not trying sooner. Thats would be a problem 2 discouver the pleasures of sex at his age, you`ll get depressed after realizing on how much you`ve missed out |
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| janet | Posted Jul 16 2008, 01:33 AM |
QUOTE (Robert @ Sep 15 2006, 06:15 AM) nameles girl said: Pretty easy, isn't it? No... it's not. The bigger issue beyond even this thread, is that Women make extremely little effort to connect with Men socially when compared to what Men do. I'm sure that at some point in 42 years, SOMEONE has at least had an interest in Oscar. However, the issue has probably consistently been that these Women just didn't make any effort to approach him. Sure, the same inaction can be charged to Oscar as well, but he is the "shy guy" in this subject so he's needed a Woman to approach him. The issue is not only women just didn't make any effort to approach him, the issue is vancouver's male population are way outnumberred the female population. Here is an example. a woman posted her experience in Vancouver. "I also don't really like being followed about and pestered by men out on the street and in parks who assume that a woman walking in the park alone must be dying for some company. A smile, idle chit-chat, great, but if the woman isn't responding, let it rest!!! I was freakin' stalked by some guy who I was reasonably friendly to on the ferry. That is, I was friendly until he started asking personal questions, after which I became a little more curt. He offered me a ride somewhere and I declined. He took my intital friendliness as a permanent invitation and later I noticed him hovering about, peering at me as I sat with older members of my family on a restaurant patio near the ferry terminal. He was not eating at the restaurant, he was just hovering. I studiously ignored him. When I left the restaurant to walk towards the ferry, still waving at my family, he started shouting to get my attention. I ignored him but he got louder and loude until I had to acknowledge him with a grunt to let him know I wasn't deaf. I mean for chrissakes. How annoying is that? I'd been trying to eat a meal in peace while visiting with my older relatives, and I'd already given him strong signals earlier in the day that I wasn't interested in continuing to converse with him. He was old enough to be my father too. I seem to attract this type like a magnet. They freakin' approach me everywhere. Which brings me to my point about what's wrong with Vancouver men.... THEY JUST DON'T KNOW WHEN TO QUIT!! They are oblivious to negative cues from women and just keep trying to the point of pestering." now you know how vancouver men are suffering... |
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| Guest | Posted Jun 11 2008, 04:03 AM |
| Get help is right!!....because people like you statistically end up committing suicide and/or dying of heart disease or cancer. I have often wondered why I might hear of 40 yr old virgins in my ward, yet no 50 or 60 yr old virgins. No they didnt get laid. When looking at their medical files,they died of drug and alcohol abuse. Others died of heart disease and cancer. The ways you are livin now is going to kill you,no doubt about that. so take our advice and get help, so that you can live a long happy, healthy life QUOTE (GoodVibez @ Jan 29 2008, 10:06 PM) Either get a friend to help or see a shrink. Everyone deserves to live a full life and enjoy everything it has to offer, so get whatever help you need asap. |
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